Look but don't Touch? | The Savings Wife

Friday, January 18, 2013

Look but don't Touch?

Let me start by saying this is a button pusher subject for me. Why you may ask? This has been the biggest lie ever told to me. It's also the one I really fell for. So lets first look at the Bible concerning this and then we will move on to the consequences of this action.

Matthew 5:27-28 You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Exodus 34:14 Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.
1 Corinthians 7:4: The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
There you have it, it's wrong to look at someone besides your husband or your wife. The SIN is called LUST. It's also good to be jealous over something you have. When that jealousy breaks other rules (say murder, not cherishing your wife) it becomes evil. You do not have to share your husband or wifes heart with someone, something else.   

  1. Your children may believe their value is in only how they look, because you look past your husband or your wife to someone who is physically attractive.
  2. You will not be content with what you have (husband or wife). You will long for more.
  3. What's in the heart leads often to action
  4. You children may believe that you are a lair that you do not love your wife/husband, but still continue to act as you do. So they will not trust that you love them.
James 1:15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
Pornography and Role play are also wrong for those same reasons but let me give you a few more consequences.
  1. Your wife/husband will not believe they are enough. They will try to live up the the expectations of the videos and will find out that they can not compete. Especially as they age or have children. They will wonder why you can't love just them, what's wrong with them.
  2. Depression and a seed of bitterness will take root. The wife or the husband without the addiction will began to resent you.
  3. Porn is often a trigger for other sexual sin. Pedophilia is one of them. Most women on porn tapes are in their teen years. Some on the internet are much younger.
    Also every woman/man/child/ on those is someone else's daughter, sometimes wife, fiance, husband, son. That means you are committing adultery also.
The opposite of all of this is Self-control one of the fruits of the Spirit mentioned in Gal. 5:22-23

WOMEN: You may say I don't have a problem with Pornography, but trashy novels and fantasy romance will do the same thing as pornography to your heart.
  1. You wish your husband was more like the guy in the book
  2. You long for someone else more like the guy in the book.
Emotional adultery runs rampant among women. Who you share your heart to will become the one you share your bed with. Doesn't always mean physically. Who will you picture while you are intimate with your husband? Sharing your heart with someone besides your husband means you are not fully your husbands.

You too have committed the sin of LUST
If you are having a problem with this sin of adultery, Lust and pornography there is help available:
“The love Dare” Chapter 24 deals with this issue.
http://xxxchurch.com/ has a programs, porn accountability software.
A bible search on “LUST” will give you a lot of help.